Posted in Books, family, goals, inspiration, life, motivation, question, writer's block

When the magic feels gone…

It’s been over two months now since I’ve written or edited a word in my books. Nothing cleaned up, nothing new, no ideas outlined.

Sigh.

Is the magic gone? Has the will to write left me?

No. It’s still there; but it lies dormant for now as I struggle to find the energy and commitment that I once had.

Does this sound familiar to you? How do you break up writer’s block that’s as thick as ice on a Chicago lake?

Steph

Posted in Books, coming soon, cover, evil day job, fiction, gay fiction, health, knitting, motivation, new books, new dawn, painting, stories

New Year!

It’s a fresh new year and full of possibilities (and decisions to be made).

My day job is not very fulfilling, but pays the bills. So my hobbies fill in the gaps 🙂

Here’s a rundown of what was accomplished :

Ice Fairy 3, Cid, This Time Around, Upstaged 3, Complications, and re-released Love by the Numbers. Plus work on other new projects and rewrites

I knit four cushion covers, two cat blankets, five washcloths, and a sawtooth shawl!

I painted about four paintings (mostly for family).

Here’s a smidgen of what I did:

So what’s shakin for this year? Rewrites, more paintings, but cutting back on the knitting. My job takes my hand strength and the only options are PT, or a cortisone shot. Oy. We’ll see what else I can do.

Plus, a HUGE thank you to everyone who’s joined this blog since I moved it over here to WordPress. I plan to post a lot more in the new year and change up the content, so stay tuned!

What’s shakin’ for your 2019?

Steph

Posted in advice, Books, frustration, life, motivation, Procrastination, question, S. L. Danielson, writing

Getting Down to Business…

 

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Procrastination. It’s the bane of my existence. I have soooo much free time on my hands I don’t know how to fill my days.

Well. I do.

Really.

I’m just such a procrastinator that I fill it with the wrong things. Like…FaceBook, Pinterest, etc…etc…doing aimless research on things that have nothing to do with my books.

Sound familiar?

I’m job-searching (and redoing resume daily it seems) all to appease the ATS systems. Sigh. I get recruiters emailing and calling for the same job (one listing has sent five recruiters to me, wow they are desperate)!

Otherwise, I’m a housewife and cat mother. I take care of home and kitty to the best of my ability, despite despising cleaning. LOL My games eat up a lot of time (I’m soo addicted) plus knitting, or the aforementioned internet addiction.

How do I stop? How do I structure my day again? I need to make some hard and fast rules on what my time should be spent doing.

What works for you?

Reminders? Outlook/Gmail? I need a clock to go off and yank my phone away, open my book that I need to work on, and yell out, ‘work on this for one hour’!

Wouldn’t that be cool?

So…as I wile away this time writing out my frustration with procrastination and my consternation with aforementioned issues…I bid you adiue…

#procrastination, #timewaster, #whiny #toomuchfreetimeonmyhands

Steph

Posted in Depression, family, frustration, health, motivation, question, writer's block, writing

Battling depression and doubt

As I write this, I should be finishing up the edits on a re-release of mine. Note I said “should-be”. I should also be creating the paintings I’ve been yammering about for months, knitting for my family and kitty, plus volunteer shelter knitting…plus 100 other little things that I just haven’t the energy or motivation to dive into.

Sound familiar?

This is all too common for me lately though I have my good days where I kill it with the edits; but the comments make me doubt my own writing. “This sucks! Why did I write it this badly?” kind of moments are constant.

Then there’s all the other things I want to do beyond crafts like job-hunt (a need not a want)…visit family, play games, etc. etc.  No mojo means no go.

Sigh.

My hubby is old school and says to just ‘force myself’. That doesn’t work for me. He’s never understood what depression really does to a person. So no, forcing it doesn’t help.

My parents are also no help (but I love them dearly) to where it’s the ‘pull yourself up by your bootstraps” mentality…just fine from folks who grew up in THE depression. Not so valid now.

So…what to do?

Well, I write it out. I’m a writer, it’s what I do. I’ve filled over four pages so far with thoughts on the issues; but no real solutions come to mind. I just don’t want to get out of bed in the morning. Short of hiring Chewbacca or a droid to assist me with that; not gonna happen so easily.

(Though if Coran came in I’d consider it). LOL

OK jokes aside, how do you get going and through your days? I’m finding things going at a snails pace, even slower than that sometimes….what do you do to motivate yourself?

I’d love some advice.

Cheers,

Steph

Posted in advice, inspiration, motivation, rejection
One of the worst words ever, for any writer is to see REJECTED.

I don’t know a single author out there that hasn’t been rejected at least once. It’s heartbreaking, how could they do this to you? It takes a toll, believe me. But it is definitely not the end of the line.

So how do you pick yourself up and dust yourself off after such a blow?

1. It is not a personal attack.
They have seen your words and your story, but they do not know you. It is not an attack on your person or your psyche.

2. If they gave reasons, take them to heart as constructive criticism.
Most good publishers will give solid reasons as to why they did not accept your work. Either it didn’t fit, or needed shortening/lengthening, there were story continuity issues, whatever. Keep in mind they have a business to run and will take what they think will sell.

3. Keep at it.
This is not the end of the line, not by a long shot. My first couple of books were rejected but they gave reasons and I worked on them. Dive into your contacts for a good beta (which are worth their weight in gold). With help, polish up the story and re-submit it somewhere else.

4. If you’re the Indie type, do it yourself.
If you’ve got drive, motivation, and a good network, go indie! I’ve done this with a couple of mine and have gotten a great response. I found that I didn’t need a publishing house to accept me to give my story ‘worth’. I knew it was good and didn’t want to wait. (very impatient person). It paid off for the most part.

5. Keep writing.
No matter what, this is your craft, don’t let them rule what you want to do. I’ve been writing since I was seven years old and minus a couple of years off sporadically; it has been my lifelong pursuit. If you feel it, write it. Go with your passion. The audience will find you.

S. L. Danielson, Author